Introducing the end of the pessimist. Dream killers – as I like to label them, are people who perform the function of an unwanted fire fighter to your ambitions. A wise woman once told me that you should always win in your dreams – after all – it’s your dream!
The you can’t do it crowd is always a very healthy, eager group of people willing and ready to shoot you down. There must be some reward I’m unaware of for dousing a dream or goal by serving up the proper mix of doubt and unreasoned rejection. You probably know a few people like this I’m sure – we all do. They come in all forms for all sorts of reasons. There is a distinction I should make – Kids like to challenge one another’s goals – usually without intentional malice and frankly, kids will be kids. They usually aren’t locked in on daily exercises in optimism. So, kids get a pass.
Taking a position that reduces the possibility of a positive outcome isn’t automatic for many of us. It’s often a calculated choice. Dare I suggest that it is a position we learn? A position we adopt as a defense to increase our own feelings of optimism? Sure. Why not? If you decide to try something new – you’re probably now at odds with the established level of comfort in your social and professional circles.
Why? – well, you’re no longer predictable. You’ve suddenly changed. You have become ambitious. You’ve also become difficult. Your perceived faults become measurable. You’ve also become crazy (I’ve never understood that one). You’ve become less desirable and you certainly can’t be relied upon. You’ve also become the one who won’t make it.
All nonsense right? Of course it is! Pessimism should be classified as a disorder – something like an arrested state of thinking. A position that deserves to be rejected as soon as it’s recognized. Optimism is so much easier anyway. Who doesn’t want to be encouraged? Lifted up? Supported? Sounds crazy huh?
It is crazy so – make sure you make a little room for those crazy ones.